The Sins of Our Parents
Can the sins of our parents be our shame or can they lead to our salvation?
I often wonder that sometimes. You hear the phrase generational curse and to me it strikes a nerve. Of course I believe that is a very powerful term, and I do believe it is true, but I also believe it’s up to us whether or not we let it rule our lives.
Take me for an example. I am the result of an adulterous affair. My mother was married to another man when she met my biological father. She left her husband and started a relationship with my father. Sometime around this, is when I was conceived. After a while she went back to her husband and had me. For some reason they thought it was a good idea to act as though I was their own child and that my father was not my own.
Long story short my mom didn’t stay married to her husband. In fact she didn’t even continue raising me. She left me with her husband who I always thought was my dad. Then years later in a fit of rage informed me that he wasn’t when I was a young teenager. It took me starting an account with ancestry and submitting my dna sample before I discovered she wasn’t lying.
This whirlwind of a crazy story, was the beginning of my life. So yes, the sins of our parents can affect us, but I’m here to say they don’t make us who we are. We have the free will from God to be better and do better. We can change our circumstances by not wallowing in self pity. We all have hard life stories. Yes, some are a bit easier than others, but I’m sure most of us have rough stories of our upbringing or how the beginning of our lives affected who we are now.
But, this is where Gods grace and mercy comes in. He says you are HIS child, he says that He formed you in your mother’s womb and that He knows the plans He has for you. So let’s not forget who we really are and who really made us. We can stand strong and not let the sins of our parents cause our lives to fall into the statics of a generational curse, and we can overcome years of heartache that our families have left as our burden.
It took a long time for me to get to this point, but I forgive them all. I forgive my mother who has since passed, because she had her own brokenness in life. I forgive both of the men that were meant to be my worldly fathers, because they know not what they do for neither of them has turned to their creator. But since they are both still living, I pray for their salvation, even if that means I never see them in this life, I pray they find peace before the next.
Not having any of them in my life, has been hard, but that is ok. Because it took that rejection to allow me to find peace. It took all of this chaos in the beginning of my life for me to discover my true father God, and to realize who I am to Him.
